Therapy in Chatham, Medway
Counsellor & Psychotherapist
For when things feel hard to hold - inside or out
You might feel overwhelmed and stuck, or you might be managing day to day while something underneath feels unsettled.
I work with adults and couples dealing with anxiety, low mood, trauma, and relationship difficulties - whether these are recent or have been building for a long time.
We can take things at your pace. You don’t need to know exactly what you need before reaching out.
Ways I work with people
People arrive for different reasons - sometimes clear, sometimes not. These are the main areas I work in. You don’t need to be certain which one fits before reaching out.
See all my servicesIndividual Therapy
When things feel overwhelming, stuck, or quietly heavy.
We can work one-to-one with whatever you’re carrying — anxiety, low mood, past experiences, or situations that don’t seem to shift. Sessions are steady, confidential, and paced around what feels manageable for you.
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Couples Therapy
When conversations keep going in circles, or distance has crept in.
I work with couples who want help understanding patterns, managing conflict, or finding a way forward without blame. The focus is on what happens between you – not on taking sides.
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Trauma-Informed Therapy
When past experiences still affect how you feel, react, or relate.
Trauma-informed work focuses on safety, choice, and pace. We don’t rush into the past – we work in a way that helps your nervous system feel steadier in the present.
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Men’s Therapy
When you’re expected to cope, but something isn’t working anymore.
I work with men who feel pressure to hold things together, often without space to talk openly. You don’t need the right words – we can start from where you are.
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Clinical Supervision
A steady space to think, reflect, and stay connected to your work.
I offer supervision that’s collaborative, grounded, and honest – without performance or jargon. Suitable for trainees and qualified practitioners.
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Tom Konieczny
You don’t need to have a clear goal or a tidy explanation to start therapy. Many people come because something feels harder to carry, even if life looks fine from the outside.
My approach is steady and non-pressured. I won’t rush decisions or push the work in a direction that doesn’t feel right for you. We take things one step at a time and see what actually helps.
I’m based in Chatham and serving the whole of Medway – see how I can help.
Trauma-Informed Practice
All my work is trauma-informed – not as a separate specialism, but as a way of working. This means I pay attention to safety and pacing, I don’t push you toward material before you’re ready, and I take seriously the ways that past experience shapes how you feel and relate in the present.
I hold a Trauma-Informed Practitioner certification alongside my NCPS accreditation and BACP registration.
Transparent Pricing
Session fees are fixed and clearly stated. Payment is made at the time of booking.
This creates clear boundaries and allows the focus to stay on the therapeutic work itself, rather than ongoing financial arrangements.
Individual Therapy
Personalized 50-minute sessions designed to navigate life's challenges. Online or in-person.
from£65Couples Therapy
Dedicated 50-minute sessions aimed at enhancing communication, resolving conflicts, and deepening your connection with your partner.
from£75Clinical Supervision
I offer clinical supervision that’s collaborative, down-to-earth and unafraid to look at the messy bits.
from£65
Private health insurance
- Check your policy covers outpatient mental health and what session limit applies
- Get authorisation from your insurer – they’ll give you a claim or authorisation number
- Book your sessions as normal
- I invoice you with the claim reference; you reclaim from your insurer (or the insurer pays me directly, depending on your policy)
I am so incredibly grateful for the help I've received from Tom and cannot recommend him highly enough to anyone who is struggling with life, negative or unhelpful thinking patterns, or working through something challenging. He is patient, kind, insightful, empathic, compassionate and really smart. I've never once felt judged by him, even opening up about some of the most difficult things in my life. He really listens, pays attention and is able to reflect back to me useful insights into my thoughts and behaviour patterns in just the right way to be helpful and help me move forward. I have seen several therapists in my lifetime, and tried many different styles of therapy, but found Tom to be the most helpful of any I have ever worked with due to his broad understanding of so many different styles of therapy, and wonderful skill at picking just the right one for the job along with his incredible listening and empathy skills. I've been able to make more progress with him in a few months dealing with some major traumas than I had in a lifetime of trying other things. Good therapy is often really hard work, but it is so rewarding when you find the right person to work with, who can skillfully and sensitively guide you through the challenges, and always find the positives or the signposts in any tough situation. Tom has been a delight to work with, and from the bottom of my heart I encourage anyone feeling stuck or hesitant about therapy to give him a go. He's so easy to talk to right from the first session, and you will feel so much better for it.
Tom is an absolutely amazing therapist and I could not recommend him more. He is extremely kind, non judgemental, and supportive the entire process. Regardless of if you have been to a lot of therapy or are new to it, he's a real professional who will both help you make the changes you want and will provide a supportive, listening ear along the way.
I am very grateful to Mr. Tomasz for the help he provided me with my life situation. I highly recommend him!
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Here you’ll find short reflections and longer pieces drawn from my therapeutic work and everyday observations. Some articles explore themes around relationships, identity, trauma, and emotional pressure; others simply put words to experiences people often struggle to name.
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The most frequently asked questions
Both. In-person sessions take place at my practice in Chatham, Medway. Online sessions are available UK-wide via video call. I’m also certified in online and telephone counselling, so phone sessions are an option if video doesn’t work for you.
Both formats are equally valid – the best format is whichever allows you to engage most openly and comfortably.
Yes. Everything shared in sessions is confidential. There are recognised exceptions to this, which I explain clearly at the start:
- If there is immediate or serious risk of harm to yourself or others
- If a child or vulnerable adult is at risk
- If I am legally required to disclose information (for example, by a court order)
- If you give explicit written consent for information to be shared
Outside of these circumstances, what you share in sessions stays in sessions.
Sessions cancelled with less than 48 hours’ notice, or missed without contact (“Did Not Attend”), are charged at the full session fee. There are no refunds within the 48-hour window.
The session time is held specifically for you, and late cancellations mean that space can’t be offered to someone else who may need it.
If you’re unable to attend in person, switching to an online session at the same time is usually possible – please let me know as early as you can if this is needed.
Yes. I’m an approved practitioner with Aviva and Vitality Health. If you’re insured with either of these providers, your therapy sessions may be covered under your policy.
To use your insurance: first check with your insurer that psychotherapy sessions are covered under your plan and whether a GP referral is required. Then contact me with your insurance details. I’ll handle the billing directly with the insurer, making the process as straightforward as possible for you.
This varies considerably from person to person. Some people find real benefit in a focused block of sessions – six sessions can be a useful starting point to establish a focus and see what emerges. Others find that longer-term work, over several months or more, is what allows deeper and more lasting change.
There’s no fixed answer, and no pressure to commit to a particular timeline upfront. We’ll review how things are going as we go, and you’re in control of when you want to pause, slow down, or end.
My approach is integrative, which means I don’t work from a single fixed method. People arrive at different points in their lives, with different histories and different levels of readiness, so rather than fitting someone into a model, I adapt the way I work to what’s actually happening for them.
In practice, I draw on a range of therapeutic approaches as reference points, not as ready-made solutions. I’m attentive and involved, but not passive. Sometimes that means staying with something that’s usually avoided. Sometimes it’s noticing a pattern that keeps repeating. At other times, a direct question or a clear focus helps bring movement.
What matters most is that you don’t have to perform, explain yourself neatly, or “do therapy properly”. We start with what’s possible in the present and move at a pace that’s realistic and sustainable.
Sessions last 50 minutes. You can expect a calm, confidential space. Not a formal interview or a structured exercise programme.
We talk. I listen carefully and might ask questions, offer observations, or gently draw attention to something that seems worth looking at more closely. I don’t push you in a direction that doesn’t feel right, and I won’t rush things forward before there’s enough readiness.
What we focus on is largely led by you. There’s no performance required and no “right way” to do therapy.
No. Many people come to therapy without a clear goal or the right words yet. Often there’s just a sense that something feels harder to carry than it used to. Even if life looks mostly fine from the outside.
You don’t need a plan, a specific outcome, or a fully formed story. Part of the work is slowing things down enough to understand what’s actually going on. We can start with where you are, rather than where you think you should be.
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